Growing up I had three positive, powerful forces in my life to school and protect me from the "VULTURES" in the streets. God, because he was just watching over me and I hid his word in my heart; and Mommy, because she was on her " A GAME" from day one and knew ALL THE TRICKS OF THE TRADE. She proved that during my coming of age years and it brought us close. My interest in New Edition and crushes in school, made me curious about men. It was Mommy's perspective on the subjects of men, love and relationships, that intrigued me and made her more interesting. Mommy's motto was simple, "Keep yo legs closed!" What Ol' School mother didn't tell you that? And her favorite lines were " Don't be all LOOSE and SLACK with yo'self, smiling is a NO NO! In retrospect, she was so right, because years later, Biggie's line in One More Chance was "Once you grin, I'm in GAME begins!" And when Mommy heard that, she FELL IN LOVE WITH BIGGIE SMALLS!!! Even though she went to church, I still tortured her with a lot of rap in my car; and upon hearing that line, she was said; "Y'all young gals need to listen more and talk less to these Niggah's! They speak their whole heart and you so stupid and GOO GOO EYED, you're not paying attention to the GAME being ran on you!" Listen more and let him tell you about him. Don't bare your soul to no man, because he uses your words against you, cause you done spoke YOUR WHOLE HEART and told him how to FOOL YOU!
Looking back, her words was food to my soul. And as far as I was concerned Mommy was the GURU of GAME! She grew up during a time when PIMPIN WAS STRONG and she survived. I always wanted to ask her how she never got caught up in all that, but as I grew older I realized Moms had a STRONG CONSTITUTION and she could NOT BE BROKEN. Mommy was MEAN AS A SNAKE BEFORE SHE GOT SAVED! I've seen her do some MEAN crap to men. Not speak, when spoken to. If a man complimented her, she wouldn't even acknowledge it, her look seemed to silence them and she'd dismiss you with the QUICKNESS. Being a naïve little girl, I thought Mommy was mean, but men seemed to FLOCK HER and she REJECTED ALL OF THEM! Later on I realized she knew it was all GAME and she wasn't buying what a dude was selling. Also, her lack of talking made her more INTERESTING TO PURSUE!!! "Men Love CHALLENGE and YOU are nothing but a CONQUEST," was another line she'd use on me, to wake me whenever she though a fool was trying to "LULL" me to sleep with his "GAME!" It was true though, and I learned one thing about men, if you tell them NO, they'll be back and KEEP TELLING THEM NO! It builds RESPECT and CHARACTER IN YOU AND INCREASES THE RESPECT TO YOU FROM THEM!
Another thing I realized if you make a man WAIT LONG TOO LONG, you will see his TRUE COLORS...either he will ALWAYS RESPECT YOU or just LEAVE YOU ALONE! Men can be so conniving and wicked, but there are some GOOD MEN out there. Once I had a guy tell me, a WAGER was placed on my head to see who could SLEEP WITH ME FIRST! I was MORTIFIED!!! But GOD is AMAZING, the guy couldn't help but come to me and say "Zanee' you are so cool, down to earth and sweet that I couldn't sit here and not tell you about our devious plan!" I was very grateful to him for telling me, because, I kind of liked his friend and told him. So I guess his conscience got the best of him and he told me EVERYTHING! That wasn't the first or the last time a BET was placed on my ASS to see who could "BED ME DOWN FIRST!" The thing these fools didn't know back then is, I had GOD ON MY SIDE, WHO YOU GOT? I'M COVERED AND PROTECTED BY THE BLOOD and MY MOMMA'S PRAYERS!
But the person who really put me on to men and their nonsense, was my GRANDFATHER! This old man would get drunk and be telling me things I didn't really get. He taught me so much about not SLEEPING AROUND and being STINGY with the COOCH! One thing he emphasized was not to have multiple sex partners, because" by the time you're twenty five, you won't have no walls!" I learned so much from my Ol' Man and I miss our talks. My Grandfather did things with me that FATHERS, UNCLES, GRANDFATHERS and BROTHERS should do with their daughters, nieces, grand daughters and sisters... DATE NIGHT! It works...TRUST ME! I'm the woman I am today because of my Grandfather and the men in my life! They took time with me and took me out to dinner, as an example of how a man should treat me. My uncles, my father and my cousins did it and ALWAYS GAVE ME MONEY and GIFTS. So I didn't have to LAY ON MY BACK TO GET IT! My brother teases me a lot and says I am real funny because I was STINGY with my body and how PROUD he was of me growing up. I owe it all to Mommy and my Grandfather; they were my first teachers. My uncles, my Father, my biological Dad, my Pastor and some guys who were just good friends from the streets always looked out for me and would school and PROTECT me! Your body is a temple ladies and you are not a DOOR KNOB; every man should not get a TURN! It's sad because women have no RESPECT for themselves and VIRTUE is NON EXISTENT. It's to the point, MEN DON'T KNOW HOW TO APPRECIATE A DECENT WOMAN WHO HASN'T SLEPT AROUND! I don't know, so I'm gonna close the post with that...
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