If You Start Your Relationship With A Lie, It Will End With One!

When I first met Lucas, he was really a nice guy. Always helpful and knowledgeable about cars and the car business; because of that, we became cool. Whenever I had a problem with my car, I knew I could always find a refuge in him. At one point, he'd been so helpful, I offered to cook my new "friend" dinner.
We wound up going on a date instead! Talking for hours about any and everything, he was like my B.F.F back then. We'd even sit in the car and watch women's asses together...we STILL do!
The one thing I always told him was I HATE A LIAR! If you want to get anywhere with me, NEVER LIE I DON'T CARE WHAT IT IS! What was the first thing he did? Lie to me about his age. I realize now, I shouldn't have ignored the warning bells going off in my head. Because I NEVER dated men younger than me, I HAVE NO PATIENCE for CHILDREN and what in the world would I do with his young ass? I was thirty two, been married once and had two small children. My life consisted of work, them and my mother. I had no time to party or hang out, because I had a private school tuition to pay, food to put on the table, clothes to dress my kids in and a roof to keep over their heads. Not to mention cable, light, gas, car note and insurance! I was on my grind for real and hustling the system. My money went to necessity, not luxury and I wasn't about to just have any man over my children; playing couch commando with my remote and not giving Time Warner Cable bill money. No man was sitting up in my house: running up bills, eating up food and not contributing to the cause..."HOMEY DON'T PLAY THAT!" And you wasn't fenda pimp my ride with the next chick in tow; while I sat home with my kids lying to my Mommy about why you had my car! No, I was a HARD ASS, cause I had two children who depended on me to take care of them and I WASN'T TAKING CARE OF NO GROWN ASS MAN TOO!
But Lucas was different, or so I thought. He had a job and NEVER ASKED ME FOR ANYTHING! More than that, he was respectful and nice to my family; even though Mommy told him "He didn't have enough for me!" My mother wasn't one to mince words and she saw me working too HARD to settle for some regular JOE SCHMOE, so she really didn't like him much. We stayed together through a lot. Mommy dying, my breakdown, me not wanting to leave the house once Mommy died, two more children and my own family drama! But in spite of my realness with him, he's a LIAR and in more ways than one. I believe all men need space, and I gave him more than enough of it and he abused it! I'm not going into the dynamics of it; but my advice to any man is: "If a woman's major pet peeve is lying, try to PROTECT YOUR INTEREST OR WHAT YOU HAVE WITH HER!" Because once she finds out you've been lying to her, SHE IS GOING TO LEAVE YOU! It may not be today or tomorrow, but BELIEVE ME...SHE IS GONE & the LIE you told won't be worth it.
If it's over some broad, YOU CAN REALLY FORGET IT! Because I know I want nothing more than peace of mind at this point and to be rid of him and his "FAMILY" with his "FRIEND!"
Our relationship began with a lie about his "AGE" and is ending with a lie about a "GOOD FRIEND", who he now has fathered a child with and there's just no coming back from that. I now realize the sad TRUTH, that there are just some LIES YOU CANNOT FORGIVE...no matter HOW HARD U TRY. It's been a year and I tried, but the lies just keep coming. So we're at the point where it's business and co-parenting for the little ones. A LIE IS A LIE...IF YOU BEGIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH A LIE, IT WILL END WITH ONE! THE QUESTION IS...WAS THE LIE WORTH IT?