Frederick - Please Be Gentle (Calling Your Name)

I so miss the days of REAL R&B music. You know, the classics that had you up late at night listening to The Quiet Storm on WBLS or Kiss FM. Vaughn Harper ruled the night and on Kiss, I remember the  soft velvety voice of "The Duke" Johnny Allen. Right now, I'm having brain fog so I can't recall all of the night time DJ's, but I do know one thing; music isn't the same anymore and probably never will be. Today's generation will N
EVER know what it is to covet the love they see their parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles or older siblings have. Everything is so sexual or has sexually overt undertones. Nobody talks about TRUE LOVE or SELFLESS ABANDON. Yes this is what we (the African American community) has to come to. There was a time, we held our relationships in HIGH REGARD!

No matter if you were rich or poor, you KNEW when YOU WERE IN LOVE with someone. Most of our parents and family members met when they were young; childhood or teenage sweethearts...got together and STAYED THAT WAY!

The songs before our time and before now spoke of:  LOVE, REAL FEELINGS and KEPT OUR  FAMILIES TOGETHER. Tell me I'm wrong, but how many times have you sat at family functions and gatherings; a particular song comes on and all the old' schooler's get up to dance?  Why? Because those songs were what brought them together and how got you here!

#TRUESTORY#

Don't mind me, I'm just having a moment! I just wish I was born earlier, in a different space and time. When men had morals and chose a wife based on real qualities, and not just slept with the masses. It was about QUALITY, not QUANTITY! Even if there were infidelities, his heart was there with the woman he TRULY LOVED and your LOVE was not a temporary thang.

Today, the Black family is suffering. We have allowed ourselves to be sucked up into selfish cesspool of lies, deceit and dishonesty; inflicted on us by the media. It's ok to be a side piece, break up families, have babies out of wedlock, never marry and shacking up is the next best thing. Feelings of LOVE are fleeting and momentary. Most men think if you are strong minded or have standards...you have "ISSUES!" They want a woman who will allow them to be disrespectful, not date or court them into a relationship. There are no dinner dates, flowers or trinkets. Just sex on the first date, pregnancy by the third and you know NOTHING about each other. Now you've just created a vicious cycle of dysfunction and you expect to be a wife, the man barely even knows you. There are no more songs to get boo'ed up with at a dance, today men are always looking for the next conquest and I don't think that'll ever change. Relationships now are rare, if you find yourself in a REAL ONE, THANK GOD and MOVE ON! As for me, I will continue to listen to my little ol' skool and be content with what used to be.