GETTING DURTY...PRESERVING WHAT YOU HAVE OR RECLAIMING WHAT YOU LOST!

The other morning Sharene and I were on the phone talking about why men don't seem to realize when they've crossed the line of NO RETURN. That the damage done can be irreparable when men bring a child into the equation of a relationship in progress. Even on those so called coined "BREAK SESSIONS," men need to realize IF YOU GET YOUR JUMP OFF PREGNANT...IT'S A WRAP!
Growing up, I witnessed many wives, common law wives and girlfriends accept these extra liabilities called "OUTSIDE" children into their families. Everyone was like one big happy family! In the large scheme of things; women of yesterday appeared to have more reservation and class about how they interacted with each other.
These women today, are RATCHET, DISRESPECTFUL and bare no SHAME. I am old school and I believe if you find yourself pregnant by a man who is married or involved with another woman; YOU NEED TO SIT YOUR ASS DOWN SOMEWHERE AND KEEP QUIET! Don't go around looking for VALIDATION or RELEVANCY because you will NEVER GET ANY!  Remember, you've made the choice to destroy many lives and it is not fair: to the woman, her children or yourself.  But most women are too STUPID to see how it will affect them later on. Shock Jock and WBLS air personality Wendy Williams said it best "How you get him is how you keep him!" If you deliberately broke up his home to have him, YOU WILL NEVER KNOW PEACE IN YOUR OWN RELATIONSHIP...TRUST THAT.
One morning over a cup of joe and a conversation with my girlfriend Sharene, I asked her why men refuse to believe you're going to eventually move on and want nothing to do with them or that mess?
Why do they think, it's not your beef and this too will pass and you're going to go on living happily ever after? Are they really that DENSE? Yes, they are...because unfortunately, Lucas is!
Then she said something to me her brother Terrel told someone, if you want your relationship or marriage back..."YOU GOTTA GET DURTY!"
Right away, I knew what Terrel meant. He broke it down so it would be forever and eternally BROKE! He advised, You have to do WHATEVER IT TAKES TO SAVE WHAT YOU HAVE WITH YOUR WIFE, and WHATEVER GETTING DURTY TAKES IS WHAT YOU BETTER DO! I never heard saving a relationship put into that type of perspective before, It was sooooo DEEP!
Right then, my mind told me what I already felt and my heart knew...and I came to the conclusion; God has a BETTER PLAN FOR MY LIFE! I appreciate Terrel for breaking that down, it made me think and CONFIRM that a MAN WILL GO HARD TO FIX WHAT HE'S RUINED and then again...there's NO FIXING CERTAIN THINGS! That its' ok, to move on and FIND LOVE AGAIN. IF A MAN CAN'T GET DURTY FOR YOU, THAT MEANS HE LIKES THROWING DIRT ON YOU!