For quite sometime now, I've been wondering if I should switch my Master's Degree track from School Counselor to Marriage Counseling. The experiences I've had are mind blowing and reminds me of the Heat Wave hit "Mind Blowing Decisions!" I've been wondering what makes people make some of the stupidest decisions in their relationships or lives, that causes ship wreck. Especially when it comes to a person that is hardly worth the time of day. I often encourage people to think about what's important in relationships to them. There's no such thing as a middle ground. You may think you're taking a few folks along for the ride or that you're hurting someone...but you will be the loser at the end of the day.

I do believe in the institution of MARRIAGE & I RESPECT THE BOUNDARIES OF MARRIAGE! Today, it just seems people have no clue or don't even care to respect boundaries. I know an older woman in her seventies who told me she has been a side piece for forty years! Are you kidding me? NEVER WOULD I DREAM OF BEING NUMBER TWO FOR THAT LONG! Yet she seems content and alright with being in this situation. This woman even knows and speaks to the WIFE of this MAN! But while you've lived in the same raggedy, shambled, decrepit apartment; his wife resides in the suburbs of Long Island in an affluent community. While she has the luxury of comfort, you deal with rodents, bed bugs and roaches. When you need a couple of dollars to just get by...he has the audacity to tell you he has mortgage to pay and has no money for you! WOW!!! If cheap lays were money, she'd be a MILLIONAIRE.

As I sit and intently listen to this woman, I am mortified she would settle for less her entire life. I would never want to live that way. When do you go out for a nice sit down dinner or a play or just go shopping together? Are you at least friends? Does he buy you gifts? Send you flowers?

If none of this is being done, minus the money...YOU ARE A CHEAP LAY! Women are really stupid today. There used be a time, when there were "KEPT WOMEN." Which means, he cared enough about your well being; emotionally, sexually, physically and FINANCIALLY!  Call me a prostitute if you want, but I'm not selling out for a CHEAP SCREW ON AN EMPTY STOMACH & CAN'T GET A BILL PAID...BYE & DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YOU ON THE WAY OUT!

I just can't deal with the stupidity of people. I watched my mother deal with my father's infidelity and I threatened a woman who once spoke to her, but "fell" into an affair with my father. All of a sudden she "changed!" We were in the supermarket where this ratchet, poor ass, classless chick worked and Mommy spoke to her. Her response was real short & stank. Me...being a teenager and WILD AS A TASMANIAN DEVIL, jumped right at her and cursed her ass out ROYALLY! This broad had the nerve to tell my father and my wicked response to his philandering ass was " YOU MUST BE CRAZY, I WILL GO UP THERE & KICK HER ASS TO SPITE YOU IF SHE EVER DISRESPECTS MY MOTHER AGAIN...AND YOU AINT GON' DO SHIT...BUT WATCH!" See my whole family thinks I'm K.Michelle, Chrissy Lampkin and Tami Roman CRAZY! I had at least a few friends or family members refer to me as one of these women, because I was off the hook back then.

At the end of the day...BETRAYAL IS HARD; if your marriage is worth keeping, do what you can to keep it. Unlike a relationship, there are no vows, so no harm no foul. But...there still ought to be BOUNDARIES & LEVELS OR RESPECT! Don't bring TRASH TO THE  DOOR STEP OF ANOTHER WOMAN & EXPECT TO BE WELCOMED IN...