This about sums me up, as far as dealing with people; male or female. In the past, I think I've given people way more credit than they deserved. My mother's youngest daughter used to tell me "Why do you always think someone's out to get you?" Looking back, she was the exact person I should've been watching. Anyway, not to waste time on that...moving right along.
A couple of months ago I ran into an old crush, I'd met sixteen years ago. We said our hello's and went on; little did he know I found out he was married. Once that tad bit of information fell into my lap, I knew our formalities as "friends" were over. The girl code prevents me from befriending married men or men who live with their women. Experience taught me, even if he has a girlfriend, leave his ass alone...you don't need the headache!
What annoys me about this "Friend", is his dishonesty concerning his own wife. Have me excused or Pardon me, I thought when you married someone, the world should know. This is definitely not the case and because of his actions, I decided I'd given him way too much credit. Any time you can't tell people you're married, along with your Face Book and Instagram page reflecting the life of a single man "YOU ARE FULL OF SHIT...PERIOD!" And I feel sorry for your wife.
In reality, it took his ass twenty years and two children later to marry her and that's disgusting. Being the straightforward woman I am, I asked him "Why didn't you tell me you were married?" I thought you knew, was his response. By this time in my mind, I'm thinking if I were her, I'd feel like I were his last resort. Because it's obvious, he is still doing the same bullshit he was doing when I met him at twenty nine!
My response was, I thought you'd respect our friendship enough to be real, cause I'd be the first to congratulate you. I never saw you as the dude who would lie or hide your marital status. #BOOM# At this point, I just made him responsible for his actions, so now he has to come clean. I'm telling him, it's good you married her and I wish you well. What pisses me off with men, is how they try to lighten up the situation with nervous jokes. Because they've "LOST THEIR DAMN BALLS, AND YOU ARE HIP TO THEIR BULLSHIT!" Now the flirting begins and I quickly end with, NO THANKS...YOUR WIFE'S FEELINGS ARE IMPORTANT TO ME!!!;* WINK!
Then it came to me, and I questioned myself "Am I getting soft? Slacking up on my game?" Yeah, and right then and there I said to myself, it's time to tighten it up and stop giving these men more credit than they deserve. Men get mad and upset when they know you're on to them, yet they leave you no choice but to think they're full of crap. I resent the fact, he's dated this woman for years, lived his life; while she sat home raising his children. And after all the years, women and mess, he decides to marry her? I wouldn't even want his ass...don't SETTLE for me! It's as if he knows she's going to be grateful he married her and she's thinking "I'm finally his wife... thinking she has a PRIZE!"
Sometimes you have to "THANK GOD" he PROTECTED you from these men...I KNOW I DO! When does it stop though? Even women, do you really think you're not going to pay the piper for the drama you cause in people's lives? And then these broads point fingers at other women and they are the main chicks a man needs to watch! You are the perfect example of the woman a man needs to stay away from! Dude even confided in me, telling me how many women have been "THROWING IT AT HIM" especially since he's gotten married! I said well "You ain't seen nothing yet, it's going to get harder and the temptation will be stronger!" The devil is busy and you need to BE CAREFUL, was my advice to him. I also added, "For the record, I ain't throwing nothing at you, I'm just asking you why you couldn't be honest about your marital status, because I don't like even talking to married men on a certain level!" Of course women are going to come at you, they love TROUBLE, but not me, so no worries...and with that, we signed off and I will not be talking to him, other than a Hello! Today, women think it's cute to find themselves as a side piece. I find that shit an insult! So no, I'm not impressed with KISSING YOUR ASS when your wife won't! Women need to get that memo and get it quick. If you cause confusion, you will get confusion.When you can't take responsibility for wronging someone, you are one sad chick.
We all have choices to make in this life and I'm glad I have sense enough, to know when to hold em and when to fold em. Watching my mother deal with other women, made me decided I'd NEVER make my presence known to another girl, if the man is single. If he's married, I don't want to even talk and that's the truth...keep it movin son! What you put into the universe is what comes back and I had to learn that as well.
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