After those vows are taken, the new couple are introduced to the world as Mr. & Mrs! The happy couple poses for the paparazzi & heads off to the reception hall. Now if your African American with an old school state of mind, the Master or Mistress of Ceremony introduces you to the tune of First Choice's Hit of the 70's for couples " Let No Man Put Asunder!" Owww!!! The sound of Philly reppin hard as you hit the dance floor with your new husband. You won the battle, you won him...lock, stock & barrel!
This was my dream. I'd gone to countless weddings & danced to "Let No Man Put Asunder!" & it became my anthem for all relationships, like Aretha Franklin demanding "RESPECT!" I also decided when I was a little girl, that I would dance to the same song. I never got the chance. I mean I did get married, shot gun at Kew Gardens Court House, it wasn't what I had in mind at all.
Why am I saying all this? Because well, I was NEVER IN LOVE with my ex husband, not in the least & I'm tired of society taking marriage so lightly. It seems like women are getting married with the first proposal they get! What happened to making sure this "thing" feels right? Are we getting married out of love or because we have a hidden agenda? Are you marrying some one out of spite, to get back at an old flame, that strung your ass along for years and you feel you have a point to prove because you were snubbed? Yep, that's about it! Been there, done that too!
I married my first husband, because I was young, stupid & angry at the man I was TRULY IN LOVE WITH! But we'd gone through so much together & I felt he'd embarassed me enough; his little fan club, a girl pregnant & an engagement to some chick ( I'd heard from his own friends) was "loose!" I was seething with hurt & blinded by anger. The lies, the betrayal had to be returned...he had to experience the pain I felt. Yet at the end of the day, I was the one who paid dearly in the end. Anger is an emotion that will soon fade...LOVE DOESN'T, ESPECIALLY TRUE LOVE!
Today, I watch this generation of young women & what their ideology of what love is...God HELP them, PLEASE! I don't want to say too much, but there is one young lady in particular who I talked to from time to time, before she was purposed to. Hungry, Thirsty & Beastin for a man, I told her just hold on, when it's your time God will send some one just for you. Well he did & her whole disposition changed toward me, who's been with my current Fiance for almost ten years. Yes that's a long time, but because of my experience as a young woman, I REFUSE TO RUN DOWN THE AISLE &NOT MEAN IT!
Marriage is not a joke & the reason you didn't get married, is because God knew your heart better than I did. And its amazing how as soon as women get a proposal, they CHANGE & become BETTER THAN YOU! When LOVE IS TRUE, You DON'T CHANGE, You BECOME A BETTER PERSON! So let that be a lesson to you, because you are clueless as to what TRUE LOVE is & now your back on the market & because of how you acted with me & others...you will remain that way for a while! The moral of the story is know why you're getting married & make sure its for all the right reasons & not out of SPITE!
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